Licking so more of his ice cream, Zhou Yichen darted his gaze at Ai. "You know which is the annoying organ in a human"s body? The heart. The brain can be pretty much rational and logical, but when feelings co in between, it sses up the whole pace and situation at tis."
Ai's eyes looked thoughtful.
"It's worse when the heart and the mind are not in sync. Even worse when what you think is sothing rational does not necessarily an the sa for the other person. You were not wrong in helping Gu Yating. But why you helped him started to look suspicious for Jun-cute. I am a man just like Jun-cute. I have loved a woman just like him, so I have an inkling of what he is thinking."
He popped in the last bite of the cone and dusted his hands. "It would have been less of a problem if Gu Yating's feelings were one-sided. But there was a ti you had sothing for him too. I don't know why you rejected him. Maybe there was so misunderstanding between you two. Then you learned what Gu Yating was planning to do for you. You learned his trauma, and it seems you realized you thought wrongly of him all this ti. He is not a bad guy, after all."
Ai nodded her head very slowly.
Zhou Yichen shrugged. "But that kind of a situation does sothing to the person involved. We usually feel bad when we are wrong about sothing. It heightens when that sothing is actually a person. We behaved and acted unjustly to him. That feeling eats us up from within.
Thoughts like, 'Ah he wasn't wrong.' or 'I made a mistake.' or 'I shouldn't have done this to him.' or…'I feel guilty.'"
Ai stiffened.
"'So to compensate for my mistake, I will try to help him as much as possible. That's the least I can do,' was what you were thinking, right?"
She said nothing, but her silence was the answer.
"But you didn't realize your behavior because you thought that it was rational of you. You give logic behind your actions and when you do that, the part of understanding others' feelings becos obscure at tis."
Zhou Yichen adjusted the position of his twig between his lips. "That's what happened between you and Jun-cute. Now, if you think about everything from Jun-cute's perspective, what do you think he is seeing? He is seeing that the man you disliked so much until now is suddenly not so bad anymore. It irks Jun-cute because Gu Yating is the sa man you liked once upon a ti. Then he saw your heart soften for him and he wondered,
'Ah, will they be friends now?' or 'How much more of her heart will lt for him?' or 'She went to take care of him. Is that because she is beginning to like him again?' or 'She danced with him. Is that because her old feelings are coming back to her once again?' or 'Is she so touched by him that she will forget one day?' or 'What would happen to if they got even closer? Will she eventually leave for him one day?'' is what Jun-cute is thinking."
Silence. The wind softly howled and Ai's hair fluttered with it.
Zhou Yichen touched his chin. "I won't say it's wrong of you to be friends with Gu Yating either. But you should learn how to balance the distance between your friendship with him and your relationship with Jun-cute. It's a veeeeeery fine thread you are walking on."
He tilted his head. "Or I think you are being misled by your friendship with Han Shui."
Ai blinked twice. "Misled?"
He shrugged again. "Well, aren't you friends with Han Shui? You said so. You even went to her banquet. Normally, it's very difficult for the ex and the current partners to be friends with each other. You know why. You like the sa person so it becos complicated. But you and Han Shui are pretty much cool about it. So did you unconsciously think that this is applicable for everybody?"
"Of course not-"
"I said unconsciously, not consciously. Then again, you should think about the whole situation holistically. Why was it easy for you and Han Shui to bond? Simply because you said Han Shui really doesn't love Jun-cute. If she doesn't love him, there is no reason for things to beco complicated between you two. Consecutively, it's easier for you two to be friends. That's not the case between Jun-cute and Gu Yating.
Gu Yating still seems to have feelings for you. So, you cannot expect Jun-cute to act warmly towards him when he likes the sa woman as him. More so when Jun-cute thinks you are getting closer to him. You are seeing that as your responsibility, but he isn't. So, the dynamics between you and Han Shui and between Gu Yating and Jun-cute is different. You might have thought that if Shui and I could beco good friends, Jun and Yating might beco one day too."
Ai lowered her gaze and slowly pursed her lips.
"Co on!" Zhou Yichen vigorously patted her shoulder. "Don't look so dead. You can say…It's neither your and Jun-cute's fault but also both of you at the sa. The situation was tricky."
"Nothing is Jun's fault," she whispered.
He chuckled. "I don't an it that way. But trust is really important in a relationship. Surely, there are things with which you made him uncomfortable. But if he really knows you, he would know that you won't betray him. You won't love another man and leave him. It's fine to be jealous. But it's lethal to be anxious. Insecurities open a whole different can of worms. If there is no trust, it's easy to shake a relationship very easily."
He got up and smiled. "Then again, having fear and insecurities is what makes us humans. The only way to deal with it is to realize our mistakes, face them and build even deeper trust along the way."
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