Chapter 914: Chapter 888 Never Make Excuses (Second Update) Chapter 914: Chapter 888 Never Make Excuses (Second Update) Mother’s who especially love newborns fall into two scenarios, one is where family mbers unite to help care for the child, sharing the mother’s exhaustion and allowing her to more quickly enjoy the joys of child-rearing. The other is the subconscious, outward display of feigning for others to see, and for oneself as well – though, this act isn’t necessarily bad for the mother herself.
Many won use the act of feigning love to hypnotize themselves. When everyone around believes a mother’s love for her child is instinctive and obligatory, they too use this thod to hypnotize themselves, gradually accepting their maternal identity and quickly growing to love their baby.
So, like Jade’s wife, find life too difficult and exhausting that even such self-hypnosis is ineffective.
Who would instantly like a child, given the grueling, tornting task of caring for an infant, if it weren’t for a touch of masochism?
As if in response to Kiara’s remark, sowhere in the neighborhood, the piercing cries of a baby rang out. Despite the decent sound insulation of the community, the wailing had an overpowering penetration, reaching Kiara and Jade’s wife’s ears distinctly.
“Look, adapting to the presence of a baby like this one, who cries and fusses, takes ti, doesn’t it? You must have had a really hard ti at first?” Kiara’s seemingly offhand comnt struck deep.
“Yes, it exhausted to death. I was 120 pounds before having a child, and I lost 20 pounds during that year of child-rearing. Only after she got a bit older did I start to gain it back. There was a ti when all I wanted to do was sleep through a whole night,” Jade’s wife replied.
“I understand how you felt,” Kiara rembered those days in her past life when she raised Wendy.
Without family support and strapped for cash, she nearly succumbed to postpartum depression while raising her baby alone. As the child gradually grew, began to sweetly call her ‘Mother’, and beca more affectionate, Kiara’s love for her daughter deepened – so deep that she was willing to give up the whole world for her.
The outside world often confines won with rigid thinking, just like Jade’s beliefs – won are expected to naturally love children and if they don’t, they are considered problematic. Such conflicting concepts can easily lead to depression.
That’s why many new mothers experience postpartum depression.
The correct approach is to share the mother’s burden. When family mbers participate, the mother can feel the joy of both giving and receiving love in raising a child. Hearing her baby call her ‘Mother’ for the first ti, watching her take her shaky first steps, and seeing her gradually grow up – the sense of fulfillnt can surpass everything, and maternal love can flourish. But not everyone’s circumstances are the sa.
Jade’s wife’s situation isn’t abnormal at all; it’s quite common.
The hardest thing is to find understanding. When Jade’s wife heard soone empathize with her, she felt an indescribable touch in her heart. At a ti when she doubted her worth as a woman, having soone understand her, soone who could analyze the problem objectively, was incredibly healing and heartwarming.
“So, Isla May, what should I do?” she asked.
“Your family has several issues. I’ll help you sort through them step by step. First, we need to address how the absence of paternal love in your childhood is negatively affecting your emotions now. Once that’s resolved, you’ll feel less distant from your baby. But more importantly, your husband needs to be involved in child-rearing, which is beneficial for you and the child.”
“He’s… useless. He doesn’t want to care for the children. He says he’s a man and that this is woman’s work.”
“Don’t worry, I have a way to deal with that, but in the anti, you should reconsider your plans for a second child. Whether you have another is up to you, but I can responsibly tell you that with the current state of your family, having a second child will only exhaust you further and exacerbate your eldest daughter’s issues.”
After all, having a child won’t keep a man’s heart tied down.
“But if I don’t have another, he’ll make a fuss about getting a divorce. What will happen to my eldest daughter if we really get divorced?”
“And if you have a second child and it’s a girl, and he still wants a divorce, what about your eldest and your second daughter then? The core issue remains unresolved, no matter how many children you have; it will only add to your woes. First and foremost, we need to tackle your emotional depression. I’ll help you adjust to loving your child more quickly. In ti, for the sake of your child, you’ll find you have the power to overco anything you think is stopping you, including your husband.”
Won may be gentle by nature, but as mothers, they beco strong; the condition is that the mother must accept the role change.
After a simple emotional decompression, Kiara began formal treatnt. Jade’s wife was under trendous stress and showing signs of depression, combined with the absence of emotional connection from her childhood, her moods were unstable and fluctuating.
Kiara applied “Acceptance and Commitnt Therapy” to Jade’s wife, using a series of professional techniques to help her overco her current psychological rigidity and adopt a more flexible perspective on the lack of fatherly love in her childhood.
The process took well over an hour.
When the treatnt ended, Jade’s wife was noticeably in a better mood, she even found herself missing her daughter a little, wanting to give her a call.
When Camden returned, Jade Ross and his wife had already left, with Kiara leaning against the window fra, gazing at the moon.
“All done?” he asked, wrapping his arms around her waist from behind.
“Yeah, where did you take Uncle Liao Walker?”
“Went to play chess with dad.”
“Who won?”
“Uncle Liao won most of them—actually, it’s not easy to lose to dad on purpose, hahaha!”
Thinking of his old man’s ironclad, hate-filled face, Camden couldn’t help but feel like laughing.
“Let tell you, after dad lost a few gas, he was glaring at while playing chess, as if to say, why did you bring him here, hahaha, I pretended not to see it!”
Mr. Yuno’s dream of being a chess master seems to be a bit challenging for the ti being.
“I bet at that mont, dad’s inner feelings were: How could I have fathered such a wretched brat?” Kiara imitated Mr. Yuno’s voice so vividly that Camden laughed out loud.
“No use regretting now, who asked him to be a hopeless flagpole who still loves playing chess so much.”
The neighbor’s kid who is known for crying at night started to shriek again, crying with all his might.
Hearing the cries, Kiara, thinking about the the of today’s therapy, couldn’t help but ask.
“You and Alia are twins, so what did you do when you both cried as kids?”
Taking care of one child is exhausting enough, let alone two.
“Apparently, I was particularly good at crying when I was little, I’d start wailing in the middle of the night, screaming so loud I could almost lift the roof off the house. Looking back, it was probably a calcium deficiency, life wasn’t that great back then. Alia was the opposite of , whenever I cried, she wanted milk, so mom had to feed her and find dad to take to another room. Sotis when dad wasn’t ho, it would be elder Brother or Second Brother holding .”
Therefore, the Old Yates Family’s eldest and second-born matured early.
Camden had heard from Mother that he used to be very fond of his dad when he was young, always needing his father to hold him when he cried, especially when he was teething and would turn Mr. Yuno’s shoulder all shades of bruised because of the biting.
Even then, Mr. Yuno never lost his temper, happily allowing him to gnaw.
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