Chapter 798: Chapter 772: The Extrely Difficult Choices Given by Boss Qian (Thanks to Nana’s sweetheart and Master Shi Bi for the update)
“Because I noticed that the man looked quite normal, not like a drug addict, and a gambler wouldn’t dress so formally. He didn’t sll of alcohol, so he’s not an alcoholic. That ans the only thing that could make you blurt out ‘divorce’ must be dostic violence.”
Da Yi thought that there must be fundantal issues between the two, as for marriage, fundantal issues usually involve drugs, gambling, and dostic violence.
“Very good analysis. You can be even more detailed and confident. When she called, she deliberately ntioned her location and who she was with. It shows that her husband has a strong need to control her. She also has a bruise around her eye. The first thing her husband did upon arrival was to check if there were any n around her. Although he was polite, his gaze and deanor couldn’t hide that he’s an aggressive man, and the likelihood of dostic violence is 90%.”
Da Yi nodded; she had thought along the sa lines, just not as fast as Boss Qian.
“There’s a real difference between 20 and 2000 cases.”
Da Yi sincerely admired Xiao Qian’s calm and composed deanor when dealing with patients, an effect she desperately tried to achieve. Da Yi believed that a doctor should have a temperant like Xiao Qian; patients would feel at ease with such a doctor.
“Everyone starts with 20 cases. If you work hard, you will definitely progress. Handling such cases at this stage is suitable for you to gradually gain experience.”
“But she said she wouldn’t co to .”
“She’ll co to you after she’s beaten again. By then, you should know how to treat her. Rember, the principle when dealing with female victims of dostic violence is not to ask them why they don’t get a divorce.”
“Why would you say that?” A curious mber of the Urban Managent Team asked. If they are experiencing dostic violence, why not ask why they don’t leave the scumbag?
“There are many reasons for dostic violence, and the coping thods are varied. Many won who don’t leave are not just due to psychological reasons, but also pathological reasons. If a woman with battered spouse syndro doesn’t receive treatnt, she still won’t be able to lead an independent life, and it can easily lead to tragedy. Go to the won’s prison and see how many female criminals who killed their husbands share this situation. You can also go to the n’s prison to see male criminals who killed their wives might also have similar situations. So won simply don’t have the instinct to survive on their own. If you tell them to divorce, they feel like the sky is falling. Without proper treatnt, they might be in an even worse situation.”
When the frustration reaches a certain level and explodes, either the woman kills the man or the violent man cannot stand the woman leaving and kills her. So casually asking why they don’t divorce is not sothing a professional psychologist should do.
Xiao Qian’s explanation was hard for the Urban Managent Team to understand and seed very complicated.
“When you’re not directly involved, don’t stand on your perceived moral ground and talk without empathy. If you can’t solve a woman’s problems, don’t ask her why she doesn’t divorce. Only by understanding her situation and thinking of effective solutions can she regain her sense of self. Whether to leave or stay will depend on the situation. That’s the correct approach to handling dostic violence cases.”
Dostic violence is a very common social phenonon, with many complex reasons behind it. Every psychologist has different plans for dealing with dostic violence consultants or victims, but none of them start by accusing them of not getting a divorce.
Though many people think being beaten and abused but not divorcing is pathetic and believe such people have hateful qualities, how can they know not leaving might be due to threats from the husband to kill them or their families, or not wanting to leave for the sake of their children, or as Xiao Qian said, already developing pathological reasons and becoming excessively dependent on the violent man, similar to Stockholm Syndro?
And if the problem isn’t solved, even after a divorce, many won continue to be beaten by their ex-husbands.
Furthermore, so won don’t divorce because of the gossips and prejudice from bystanders. Society isn’t very tolerant of divorced won, and they are often criticized by the people around them, even if the fault isn’t theirs.
When gossiping from a bystander’s perspective, do they ever consider that their behavior has beco a weapon to hurt others?
Xiao Qian guided Da Yi on how to handle such cases, and Da Yi took careful notes.
After the dostic violence issue discussion, Boss Qian brought up another matter.
“When you interned at the Central Hospital, did you co across the person I ntioned?”
Xiao Qian was referring to Oliver Jas, the recent assignnt she had given Da Yi.
As they walked and talked to the Urban Managent Team’s break room, they kept their voices low. However, soone deliberately slowed down, trying to eavesdrop on their conversation.
“I t the patient yesterday. He has post-traumatic stress disorder and keeps dreaming about being bitten by a dog.”
“Tell your thoughts.” Xiao Qian asked.
“Disease isn’t difficult, what’s difficult is the conflict in my heart. On one hand, I despise what he did. On the other, I’m a doctor, and he is my patient, so I can’t ignore him. Boss Qian, what should I do?”
Da Yi had never experienced such a dilemma before, one where her duty as a doctor and her moral compass were interwoven. This crucial step for a newcor left her feeling lost.
“Oliver Jas’s case was given to you to handle on your own. I won’t give you any specific advice. Just rember, if you handle this case well, you’ll be on your way to becoming a qualified psychologist in the future.”
Psychologists need dical ethics. No matter who the patient is or what he’s done, even if he’s the most evil person, a doctor must do their best to treat them. This was Da Yi’s thought before encountering Oliver Jas. But after eting him, Da Yi felt compassion and anger towards this wicked man. She despised his actions but – as a doctor – couldn’t let him succumb to his disease.
Boss Qian had given her a challenging choice, which left Da Yi feeling confused.
“I delicately asked Second Brother, of course, I couldn’t reveal any patient information. I asked him, ‘What should I do if a bad person cos to for treatnt?'”
“What did Second Brother say?”
“Second Brother said… I should see for myself.”
“Pfft,” Xiao Qian laughed. “That sounds exactly like Second Brother.”
“None of you are helping . I’m so troubled.”
Xiao Qian spoke with Da Yi, but left her more confused. Second Brother had given her an answer? What was it?
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